FaceTime sex (while fun) can be also super awkward, especially if you’re not used to video chat sex. Like, how do you know where to angle the camera? Should you use your phone or your laptop? Is it better to point the camera toward your face or your ~downstairs~ area? All valid questions.
To start: “Remind yourself that everyone feels weird about it at first,” says Gigi Engle, Promescent brand advisor and author of All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life. “Tell your FaceTime partner that you’re nervous and feel awkward to defuse the tension.” Sometimes just acknowledging that there’s a weirdness in the room can make things less weird — go figure!
It’s all a learning process, and it *will* take some getting used to even after the first time. Your fave lube or vibrator are always a good idea, says Engle.
Now, if you’re feeling a little more comfortable with the concept of getting sexual on-camera, keep reading for the 12 best positions for FaceTime sex.
1. The Elevated Laptop
If you’re a FT sex first-timer, Engle recommends trying out this super easy position as a starter. “Place your laptop on a few pillows to get a nice, flattering downward angle,” she says. Get into a kneeling position so that your partner has the entire view of your bod, with no focus on any one part. This position gives you the hands-free ability to touch yourself anywhere and, bonus, your partner gets a hot full-frontal view.
2. Just The Bottom
Now, if you’re ready to try something new, take that same computer-and-pillows stack and pull it in so the camera is really close to your genitals and legs. Both you and your bae can do this, giving each other an up-close-and-personal view as you touch yourselves until climax, says Engle.
3. Toward The Tummy
If it’s not your thing to have your genitals all up in the camera, no worries. You can also lay on your side and place your pillow stack by your tummy, which offers a full-frontal view of what you’re doing without being too invasive.
4. It’s Called *Face*Time For A Reason
FaceTime sex isn’t all about flailing your genitals at the camera. “If you’re shy, then you might want to start with only showing your face,” says Dr. Janet Brito, a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu, Hawaii. “This can be quite sexy, as the person on the other end can let their imagination go wild and think about how you might be pleasuring yourself based on your facial expressions and moans.” TLDR: Your face is a huge turn on!
5. Give Your Partner A Play-By-Play
Use your front camera and point it toward your face, then give your partner a verbal play-by-play of *exactly* what you’re doing with your hands. “Let your partner know how you’re touching yourself,” says Brito. “And what you’d like them to be doing to you as you both gaze at each other’s eyes.” Sounds kind of romantic, right?
6. Get Out Your Tripod
Take hands-free FaceTime sex to the next level by bringing in a tripod for your phone, says Brito. Set it up so it’s right next to your bed, so your partner gets a full-view of your at-home sex setup. Spice things up with a little strip tease or by slowly touching your body from head to toe.
7. Be An Audience Member
Sometimes you just want to make the sex session about *you*. Become the ~sexy~ commander (with your partner’s consent) and tell them exactly where, when, and how to touch themselves for the entirety of the FaceTime, and you’ll have a craaazy orgasm as a result.
8. Now Return The Favour
You know the drill. If you’re comfortable, now it’s time to listen to your partner while they coach you through all the lovely ways they want you to touch yourself or talk to them on-camera. This may feel a li’l weird at first, but TBH, sometimes it’s nice to let your mind go and have someone else calling the shots.
9. Use Your Booty
Think your partner has seen your every angle at this point? Wrong. With your computer on the bed or stacked on top of pillows, turn around so that your booty is facing the camera. This will give your partner a new angle, and they can watch as you rock and move your butt around, pleasing yourself with your hands or a vibrator.
10. Turn The Lights Down Low
As mentioned above, sometimes the beauty of FaceTime sex is in what you can’t see. Try turning the lights down super low (both of you) so that your view is a little unclear. In this setting, you may be able to see each other’s silhouettes but not the up-close-and-person details. That means there’s waaay more left up to the imagination and begs for sexy description.
11. Try Things Standing Up
Put your computer or phone on a high-enough surface so that your partner can see most of your bod while you’re standing straight up (and have them do the same). This will not only offer a new angle, but it will also give your hands access to your erogenous zones in a totally different way. (Who doesn’t love to mix things up?)
12. Take Things To The Tub
If you don’t feel all that comfortable masturbating in front of a camera yet, this one’s for you. Both you and your partner get into the tub and draw yourself a soothing-AF bath. Then, you can set the camera up on a stool or chair next to you and start masturbating underwater, maybe sensually touching your chest, neck, and mouth to give your partner a little more of a visual.
Now that you’ve got all of the best FaceTime sex positions at your disposal, it’s time for you to schedule a moment to try them out. And remember! Only have FaceTime sex if *you* want to. This experience is all about making you feel sexual, confident, and turned on.
This article was originally published on www.womenshealthmag.com