When you feel a strong sexual connection with someone, it’s tempting to tear off their clothes and go at it in your go-to sex position. But taking time to savour the experience has a big pleasure pay-off. “When you engage your body and mind in bed, you’ll feel more relaxed, connected to your partner and aroused — all of which result in better sex,” says Dr Logan Levkoff, a certified sex educator. By taking your time and being creative, you’ll also avoid the danger of making sex routine — with the same foreplay sequence, same position, same result.
This Valentine’s Day, why not give the gift of creativity with one of these three sex positions? Here’s how to do them, plus a few ways to elevate your experience even further. Have fun!
Sex Position 1: The Pretzel
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Benefits: The deep penetration of doggy-style while face to face.
Lie on your right side and get your man to straddle your right leg. Bend your left leg around the left side of his waist, so he has access to your vagina. Rear entry can hurt your back, but this position lets you lounge comfortably while enjoying deep penetration.
Now try this: Get him to stimulate you using his fingers or to rub the head of his penis against your clitoris to bring you to the brink of orgasm — let him know when he can reinsert himself so you can orgasm.
Sex Position 2: The Ballet Dancer
Heat index: *****
Benefits: Erotic move for quickies in tight quarters and a good option for outdoor sex. It allows for easier penetration and you have control of thrusting, depth and angle.
Stand facing one another. Raise one of your legs up and wrap it around his butt or thigh, pulling him into you with your leg.
Now try this: If your raised leg gets tired, get him to cradle it with his arm. If you’re very flexible, ask him to help you lift your leg over his shoulder.
Tip: Try this standing position in a hot shower. During the steamy foreplay, rub each other’s entire body with a coarse salt scrub to stimulate nerve endings and blood flow.
Sex Position 3: Heir To The Throne
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Benefits: The ultimate position for oral on the go, you can use this move to get in the mood.
Sit on a chair with your legs wide open. Your partner can take it from there. This is a good position for them either beginning the slow build-up with loose, broad strokes or ending with strong suction. You can easily guide them and you’ll get a full view of your partner between your legs, which can be such a turn on.
Now try this: Switch to a swivel chair – they can turn it left and right as they hold their tongue stationary.
Tip: Let them know the tongue pressure and technique you prefer by demonstrating with your mouth on their earlobe.
Excerpted from the Women’s Health Big Book Of Os, on sale now.